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Self love is not selfish. A collection of self love quotes to inspire you today

What exactly are self love quotes? Are they for the self absorbed people and even the narcissists among us? 

No, self love is actually appreciating yourself and supporting your own physical and psychological health. Taking care of your own needs so that you can help and support those around you, whether that is family, friends or your community. 

Think about when you are in a plane and the safety procedures are done. They always emphasise that you should ensure that you have your own mask on properly so that you can calmly help your children or others around you. If you fumble around trying to help others first you run the risk of endangering your own life and that won’t help those you are responsible for. 

This does not mean that you are ignoring or not thinking about them. It means you are making sure that you are at your top health to be able to fight for them. 

Self-love is all about self care. Not only focusing on yourself to the detriment of all around but making sure that you are healthy to be able to take on the challenges of life and fulfil your responsibilities. 

This could be simple as in you have been burning the candle at both ends and you have not had enough sleep in a while. You begin to notice that you are snappy and irritable as your patience levels are dropping. Focus on getting to bed earlier and getting quality sleep. Your body will thank you for it and the rest of the family too. 

We have all seen how lack of sleep affects babies and toddlers. Well we are just like them when it comes to lack of sleep. We have all seen some adults having tantrums. 

Self love is all about self care

We have all gone through some really challenging situations and even now the news seems to be so tough to hear. 

Taking some quality time to think about yourself and what you can do to recharge your batteries. Some may enjoy nature so taking a walk in a local forest or park, or even the beach. Not having to think about anything, just enjoying nature. Putting everything down and playing with your kids. Doing some gardening, spending some time on the hobby that you love. If it is painting, knitting, crafting, yoga, sport or anything in between. Plan some time for it. 

Include family and friends if that sparks you joy. Plan the spa day at home. Treat yourself to some new bath treats and soak in the tub. 

Learn to forgive yourself for things that you have done. Learn how to fall in love with yourself again. 

Self care is important. There is only one you and respecting yourself leads to happiness and that self confidence you exude will mean that the people around you feel more relaxed and at ease too. 

Check out the list below of some of the best self love quotes that may inspire you. 

Some are short and fit on a post it note. Add them to your journal as a prompt for some writing. 

Find the one or ones that make you stop and re read. These are the ones that mean something to you. Feel inspired and be kind to yourself.

Inspiring quotes about loving yourself

“If you prioritize yourself, you are going to save yourself.” – Gabrielle Union


“You’ve got to learn to leave the table when love’s no longer being served.” – Nina Simone


“Talk to yourself like someone you love.”  – Brené Brown 


“Love yourself first and everything else falls into place.” – Lucille Ball


“When you make a mistake, respond to yourself in a loving way rather than a self-shaming way.” – Ellie Holcomb


“By being yourself you put something wonderful in the world that was not there before.”  – Edwin Elliot


“Stand up for who you are. Respect yourself and ignite the divine sparks in you.” – Amit Ray


“If we give our children sound self-love, they will be able to deal with whatever life puts before them.” – Bell Hooks

Self-love quotes about happiness

“I realized that I don’t have to be perfect. All I have to do is show up and enjoy the messy, imperfect, and beautiful journey of my life.” – Kerry Washington  


“My mother told me to be a lady. And for her, that meant be your own person, be independent.” – Ruth Bader Ginsburg


“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Ghandi


“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.” – Maxwell Maltz


“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.” – Harvey Fierstein


“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” – Robert Morley


“How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you.” – Rupi Kaur

Positive quotes about focusing on yourself

“One of the greatest regrets in life is being what others would want you to be, rather than being yourself.” – Shannon L. Alder


“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha


“We accept the love we think we deserve.” – Stephen Chbosky


“Be so completely yourself that everyone else feels safe to be themselves, too.”  – Unknown


“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson


“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde


“To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness.” – Robert Morely

Deep self-love quotes

 “People who love themselves, don’t hurt other people. The more we hate ourselves, the more we want others to suffer.” – Dan Pearce


“They will try to make you unhappy, don’t let them. They will try to tell you you’re not free, don’t listen.” – Unknown


“Keep taking time for yourself until you’re you again.” – Lalah Delia


“Love yourself unconditionally, just as you love those closest to you despite their faults.” – Les Brown


“In order to love who you are, you cannot hate the experiences that shaped you.”  – Unknown


“You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.” – Diane von Furstenberg


“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.”  – Unknown


“Don’t fall into the trap of sacrificing your self-esteem for affection and acceptance.”  – Ashley Graham

Short quotes about self love

“When you feel your worst is when you need to love yourself more.” – Unknown


“Beauty begins the moment you decide to be yourself.” – Coco Chanel


“Make yourself a priority.” – Unknown


“Self-care is how you take your power back. – Lalah Delia


“Trust the next chapter because you are the author.” – Unknown


“The real difficulty is to overcome how you think about yourself.” – Maya Angelou


“Your biggest commitment must always be to yourself.” – Bridgett Devoue


“When things change inside you, things change around you.” – Unknown


“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.” – Carl Gustav Jung